so I just broke up>......
02-23-2007, 10:55 AM
#21
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Japan
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RE: so I just broke up>......
ORIGINAL: PreacherTony
Life goes on for sure, but times like he is having right now can be difficult ... let's not just brush off his feelings .....
Tim, if you know that she wasn't the one for you, get wrapped up in something right now .... shooting your bow, hunting if you can .... keep busy .....
Gibby gave you good advise ....
ORIGINAL: cr422
About four years ago my wife of 24 years told me she had found somebody else.
Life goes on.
About four years ago my wife of 24 years told me she had found somebody else.
Life goes on.
Tim, if you know that she wasn't the one for you, get wrapped up in something right now .... shooting your bow, hunting if you can .... keep busy .....
Gibby gave you good advise ....
I can sympathize believe me. I know the pain. But when all is said and done, you gotta pick up the pieces and go on with your life.
02-23-2007, 11:08 AM
#22
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Michigan
Posts: 3,329
RE: so I just broke up>......
Do what the popular song says, "I got a brand new girlfriend, ...., I've jumped of the deep end, .... feels just like a kid again,... I got a brand new girlfriend"
Enjoy the free time and get a new one!
Tom
Enjoy the free time and get a new one!
Tom
02-23-2007, 04:45 PM
#23
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Milwaukee WI
Posts: 1,161
RE: so I just broke up>......
I know some guys are just tying to lift your spirits by saying stuff like "get back on the horse and ride" -or- "get a new girlfriend go jump off the deep end" but those aren't really the things you should be concentrating on right now. It's fine to go out with friends and just try to relax but looking for female attention is the last thing you want to do. If you do go looking, you'll definately be "jumping off the deep end". And worse yet, you'll be taking her with you too. Naturally when we get bounced, we easily tend to rebound, but respect yourself and the would be casualty by not acting on clouded judgment.
Not to sound all philosophical but life has to be taken in stride a day at a timesweet or sour. (nothing really philosophical bout that huh?) Life is everchanging and it's change that scares us. Change though, doesn't have to be bad. If a year ago someone told you that today you'd be broken up and feeling like crap would you believe it? Probably not, but it is what it is. On the up side of that, if someone told you that a year from now you'd be happier than you ever were, would you believe it? Probably not, considering the way you're feeling right now. But, that's not to say it can't happen. Remember:Rushing neccessary pain out of your life isn't healthy. Refusing to see future happiness isn't either.
Life is as much a curse as it is a blessing. To live, you must accept both. I don't mean to take your struggle out of focus but just want to briefly share one of mine in the hopes you might be able to take something from it.Three years ago, after a 2 month battle with an Auto Immune Disease,my 10yr old son died in my arms afterwe decided to pull the plug. For a whole year after that, I locked myself up andrefused entry to the living. As ironic as it sounds, in refusing to live I learned to live. 20 hours a day of rationalizing the worthiness of my own existence made me realize that if I continued this way, my family not only suffers the loss of one member but rather two. That's when I decided to put my self-pity aside and rejoin the land of the living. I was 28 and yet a child then. I am 31 and much moreappreciative ofwhat I havenow.
In this life, we are nothing more than blinds leading blinds. If you are ever lost again and need to feel like you're headed in the right direction, we are here to guide you with our toy compasses. Good Luck!
-Heu
Not to sound all philosophical but life has to be taken in stride a day at a timesweet or sour. (nothing really philosophical bout that huh?) Life is everchanging and it's change that scares us. Change though, doesn't have to be bad. If a year ago someone told you that today you'd be broken up and feeling like crap would you believe it? Probably not, but it is what it is. On the up side of that, if someone told you that a year from now you'd be happier than you ever were, would you believe it? Probably not, considering the way you're feeling right now. But, that's not to say it can't happen. Remember:Rushing neccessary pain out of your life isn't healthy. Refusing to see future happiness isn't either.
Life is as much a curse as it is a blessing. To live, you must accept both. I don't mean to take your struggle out of focus but just want to briefly share one of mine in the hopes you might be able to take something from it.Three years ago, after a 2 month battle with an Auto Immune Disease,my 10yr old son died in my arms afterwe decided to pull the plug. For a whole year after that, I locked myself up andrefused entry to the living. As ironic as it sounds, in refusing to live I learned to live. 20 hours a day of rationalizing the worthiness of my own existence made me realize that if I continued this way, my family not only suffers the loss of one member but rather two. That's when I decided to put my self-pity aside and rejoin the land of the living. I was 28 and yet a child then. I am 31 and much moreappreciative ofwhat I havenow.
In this life, we are nothing more than blinds leading blinds. If you are ever lost again and need to feel like you're headed in the right direction, we are here to guide you with our toy compasses. Good Luck!
-Heu
02-23-2007, 04:51 PM
#24
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Southeast, VA
Posts: 2,119
RE: so I just broke up>......
Losing a wife/girlfriend can be hard. It was almost impossible for me to get rid of my first wife, but I finally did it.jj
Seriously, I went through my divorce about four years ago and it felt likemywhole world was crashing down on me, but just crawl out from under the rubble and brush your shoulders off, you'll be good to go in notime.
A little warning though, stay away from the whole we can still talk and be friends on again off again type break-up, those can drag on forever and usually lead nowhere butBad Street. If you feel in your heart you made the right decision, stick with it.
Over and out.
Seriously, I went through my divorce about four years ago and it felt likemywhole world was crashing down on me, but just crawl out from under the rubble and brush your shoulders off, you'll be good to go in notime.
A little warning though, stay away from the whole we can still talk and be friends on again off again type break-up, those can drag on forever and usually lead nowhere butBad Street. If you feel in your heart you made the right decision, stick with it.
Over and out.
02-23-2007, 05:17 PM
#25
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Flushing Michigan
Posts: 2,355
RE: so I just broke up>......
Sorry man. At least you figured it out before you got married and had a bunch of kids and she took half your money and you're stuck paying alimony and child support while some other guy raises your kids and drives your boat.....
02-23-2007, 05:28 PM
#26
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: NW Oklahoma
Posts: 1,166
RE: so I just broke up>......
When my first wife and I split up, I was terribly depressed. It went on like that for a while and then one day I just decided that I had to live the rest of my life, and I just as well get started, put the past behind me and feel thankful I was rid of a lazy biatch and I had more fun for the next year than I had ever had.
I have been dumped by women, had to dump women, been divorced twice, and I have to tell you, it gets easier each time.
I have been dumped by women, had to dump women, been divorced twice, and I have to tell you, it gets easier each time.
02-23-2007, 10:12 PM
#27
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: ND
Posts: 1,627
RE: so I just broke up>......
It sucks but you move on. Stay away from the bottle though... that just tends tomake it worse in so many ways especially if you hit it hard to supposily ease the pain.
Most have been there and been dumped or did the dumping. Never easy but usely for the best especially if you are just dating. The purpose of dating is to find out how to have a relationship withanother and toprepare you for marrying the right one once you find her. There is a lot of fish in the seas. I am sure glad I didn't keep the first one I caught. If I had... I would have missed out on my keeper of18.5 years... errr make that 22 years counting dating.
Hang in there.
Tim
Most have been there and been dumped or did the dumping. Never easy but usely for the best especially if you are just dating. The purpose of dating is to find out how to have a relationship withanother and toprepare you for marrying the right one once you find her. There is a lot of fish in the seas. I am sure glad I didn't keep the first one I caught. If I had... I would have missed out on my keeper of18.5 years... errr make that 22 years counting dating.
Hang in there.
Tim
02-23-2007, 10:44 PM
#28
Join Date: Dec 2006
Posts: 194
RE: so I just broke up>......
Bean there done that .
Yes its very hard , longer your together the tougher it is .
Keep your head up and keep your mind on positive things .
Like Bows, Deer , hunting season, yes it may sound creuel but theres a lot more fish in the sea..
[8D]
Yes its very hard , longer your together the tougher it is .
Keep your head up and keep your mind on positive things .
Like Bows, Deer , hunting season, yes it may sound creuel but theres a lot more fish in the sea..
[8D]
02-23-2007, 11:44 PM
#29
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: NW Montana / SW Alberta Rockies
Posts: 3,258
RE: so I just broke up>......
ORIGINAL: Hoytail Hunter
I know some guys are just tying to lift your spirits by saying stuff like "get back on the horse and ride" -or- "get a new girlfriend go jump off the deep end" but those aren't really the things you should be concentrating on right now. It's fine to go out with friends and just try to relax but looking for female attention is the last thing you want to do. If you do go looking, you'll definately be "jumping off the deep end". And worse yet, you'll be taking her with you too. Naturally when we get bounced, we easily tend to rebound, but respect yourself and the would be casualty by not acting on clouded judgment.
Not to sound all philosophical but life has to be taken in stride a day at a timesweet or sour. (nothing really philosophical bout that huh?) Life is everchanging and it's change that scares us. Change though, doesn't have to be bad. If a year ago someone told you that today you'd be broken up and feeling like crap would you believe it? Probably not, but it is what it is. On the up side of that, if someone told you that a year from now you'd be happier than you ever were, would you believe it? Probably not, considering the way you're feeling right now. But, that's not to say it can't happen. Remember:Rushing neccessary pain out of your life isn't healthy. Refusing to see future happiness isn't either.
Life is as much a curse as it is a blessing. To live, you must accept both. I don't mean to take your struggle out of focus but just want to briefly share one of mine in the hopes you might be able to take something from it.Three years ago, after a 2 month battle with an Auto Immune Disease,my 10yr old son died in my arms afterwe decided to pull the plug. For a whole year after that, I locked myself up andrefused entry to the living. As ironic as it sounds, in refusing to live I learned to live. 20 hours a day of rationalizing the worthiness of my own existence made me realize that if I continued this way, my family not only suffers the loss of one member but rather two. That's when I decided to put my self-pity aside and rejoin the land of the living. I was 28 and yet a child then. I am 31 and much moreappreciative ofwhat I havenow.
In this life, we are nothing more than blinds leading blinds. If you are ever lost again and need to feel like you're headed in the right direction, we are here to guide you with our toy compasses. Good Luck!
-Heu
I know some guys are just tying to lift your spirits by saying stuff like "get back on the horse and ride" -or- "get a new girlfriend go jump off the deep end" but those aren't really the things you should be concentrating on right now. It's fine to go out with friends and just try to relax but looking for female attention is the last thing you want to do. If you do go looking, you'll definately be "jumping off the deep end". And worse yet, you'll be taking her with you too. Naturally when we get bounced, we easily tend to rebound, but respect yourself and the would be casualty by not acting on clouded judgment.
Not to sound all philosophical but life has to be taken in stride a day at a timesweet or sour. (nothing really philosophical bout that huh?) Life is everchanging and it's change that scares us. Change though, doesn't have to be bad. If a year ago someone told you that today you'd be broken up and feeling like crap would you believe it? Probably not, but it is what it is. On the up side of that, if someone told you that a year from now you'd be happier than you ever were, would you believe it? Probably not, considering the way you're feeling right now. But, that's not to say it can't happen. Remember:Rushing neccessary pain out of your life isn't healthy. Refusing to see future happiness isn't either.
Life is as much a curse as it is a blessing. To live, you must accept both. I don't mean to take your struggle out of focus but just want to briefly share one of mine in the hopes you might be able to take something from it.Three years ago, after a 2 month battle with an Auto Immune Disease,my 10yr old son died in my arms afterwe decided to pull the plug. For a whole year after that, I locked myself up andrefused entry to the living. As ironic as it sounds, in refusing to live I learned to live. 20 hours a day of rationalizing the worthiness of my own existence made me realize that if I continued this way, my family not only suffers the loss of one member but rather two. That's when I decided to put my self-pity aside and rejoin the land of the living. I was 28 and yet a child then. I am 31 and much moreappreciative ofwhat I havenow.
In this life, we are nothing more than blinds leading blinds. If you are ever lost again and need to feel like you're headed in the right direction, we are here to guide you with our toy compasses. Good Luck!
-Heu
Its not always how far you fall, but how far you bounce back.
Good luck.
Bobby
