Help me be a good uncle Updated
12-17-2006, 02:12 PM
#12
Giant Nontypical
Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: Darien, IL
Posts: 6,744
RE: Help me be a good uncle
Leave him.
Give him a brief explaination. When you get back you can give him a more detailed explaination going beyondhunting. How he shouldn't have to be told 3 times to do things. How priorites should be lined up. How what needs to be done always comes before what you want to do ("needs" before "wants").
Maybe just forget about hunting with him for awhile until he initiates it. See where it lies in his mind.
Let him know you were counting on him. How you wanted him to be there. How you were looking forward to it, etc.
And at 13 maybe a little talk about some other wild game? Birds & the bees?
But above all - let him know regardless that you still love him and that's the reason behind leaving him and the talk. Start the talk with "Because I love ya and care about ya......" and end it with the same.
Give him a brief explaination. When you get back you can give him a more detailed explaination going beyondhunting. How he shouldn't have to be told 3 times to do things. How priorites should be lined up. How what needs to be done always comes before what you want to do ("needs" before "wants").
Maybe just forget about hunting with him for awhile until he initiates it. See where it lies in his mind.
Let him know you were counting on him. How you wanted him to be there. How you were looking forward to it, etc.
And at 13 maybe a little talk about some other wild game? Birds & the bees?
But above all - let him know regardless that you still love him and that's the reason behind leaving him and the talk. Start the talk with "Because I love ya and care about ya......" and end it with the same.
12-17-2006, 02:23 PM
#13
Giant Nontypical
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Join Date: May 2005
Location: One mile east of West Podunk Tx
Posts: 5,973
RE: Help me be a good uncle
Thanks Uncle Matt and everyone else. I am the main male figure in this kids life. I am leaving him at home this time. The decision is made. This type of behavior is pretty common so its lesson time. I will explain in detail why and will talk to him in depth, Thank you guys for your input.
12-17-2006, 02:31 PM
#14
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RE: Help me be a good uncle
ORIGINAL: Rob/PA Bowyer
I vote on the life lesson. Kids today don't get it.
I vote on the life lesson. Kids today don't get it.
Had I done this on a trip with my dad, I'd be stuck in camp the entire time. Sometimes we need to be taught a lesson the hard way.
12-17-2006, 02:35 PM
#16
Nontypical Buck
Join Date: Aug 2005
Posts: 3,102
RE: Help me be a good uncle
This scenario is a tough call.Good reasons to go either way with it.I hope the decision that you made ends up having him be more considerate and responsible.Given that you were looking for input from folks here,it would be obvious that you really are trying to do the best thing.I amsure with your interaction with him that will come through. I hope it works out well!
12-17-2006, 07:31 PM
#19
Join Date: Mar 2004
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RE: Help me be a good uncle
ORIGINAL: Rob/PA Bowyer
I vote on the life lesson. Kids today don't get it.
I vote on the life lesson. Kids today don't get it.
